Strong for them.

משפחות שכולות בבית עלמין צבאי. צילום אילוסטרציה: דובר צה”ל

Head about families in casualties of daily practices in bereavement, articulated in the harsh and shatan mission that accompanies the complex action

תאריך: 25/04/2012, 11:24    
מחבר: רותם פסו, אתר צה”ל

If you check any of the armies of the world how the Department is organized, you’ll find this class doesn’t exist in any other army, with the exception of the Israel Defense Forces. To the Department
The casualties, which brings together a wide array of activities, there is nothing in foreign armies. Representatives of the armies
Strangers from around the world come to Israel at all and of the Assembly mode ju nature of work and institutions like Israel, police and fire services are at various stages in the process of establishing such a body.

The IDF website.
Head about families at the busy daily bereavement
Other memorials: Memorial Grove late Grabowski:
Top אכ”א special article: remember in our hearts forever fallen.
The IDF spokesperson wrote that all men and commanders during his
Chief: keep falling warrants-keep the House.
The fee for commanders and soldiers Memorial Day

Department of Army casualties was established in 1975 in tragic circumstances when necessary to deal with the many of the dead and wounded from the Yom Kippur war, and especially between the IDF and the bereaved families. Since developed injured, the Department began to tinker with the controls, acquired knowledge from studies and now it serves as a focal point for information security organizations.

Head about Col. Shankar, Rebecca served as 17 years as an IDF officer casualties alone. “I don’t know how to do anything else, it has become part of me,” she testified. Today is רמ”ח ‘s right-hand man, Col. Yair Ben-
Hello, and exhibiting with grief has become a way of life with a sense of mission.

On Memorial Day, Lieutenant Colonel Shankar provides internal perspective on the ongoing activities of the Department and the industry about the families, the bereavement experience draws as reflected in her eyes talking about the hardships, and even satisfying.

Daily coping

The injured officers are in the forefront of the casualties.
Array structure built so they are categorized under and not geographical coordinates.
“What is important in our perception, and the family is where real kid’s life ended with the uniform and beret, with the unit’s heritage. This life experience was last fall, “explains Lieutenant Colonel Shankar on the organizational structure.

The injured officers rise every morning in the daily process of dealing. Beyond meeting the bereaved families, they are also wounded and disabled controls in hospitals, and rehabilitation wards. “Greater intensity at first because the family needs
More artwork and attention. It’s not like I need it later, but the event haunts Israel event, says Lieutenant Colonel Shankar. Each casualty officer assigned to force one, which creates valuable and limited resource of time. However, there are commands magnot visits – three to
Four times until 30th at least every month in the first year. In fact, the visits occur much more frequently.

Only recently, have been added to the late bereavement cpl. Joshua d. object when יהל”ם unit and formation of late night Raj killed underway of the preparations for independence day ceremony at the Mt. Herzl’s Central. “We opened this morning with the announcement that a warrior diamond Symposium, instructors and casualty officers escort camp intended for widows and orphans, so the IDF began to accumulate, and you live from event to event choice”, says Lieutenant Colonel Shankar.

The vigilance to the phone it is vigilance and advocacy when show number of casualty חמ”ל heart skipped a beat. “In Mount Herzl began to flow and I went to check the facts in the face of this devastating situation especially in circumstances where the thought, which soldiers were there and what the concept of the event simply shocking,” Lt. Col. Shankar tells about the case hit waves across the country. The family of the late Deputy Raj got the message from city officer and was רמ”ח ‘s personal involvement, Col. Yair Ben-Shalom, who happens to be in the scene. Amid all the hubbub, the casualties is the strong and strengthened. “The system that consists of former Soviet officers wounded, casualties and tell the officers is incredibly professional.
No errors and no glitches, and leverage expertise guides us along with well-defined procedures, “Col. Shankar stressed.

Alongside with the victims ‘ families, also accompanied the roles that come
To comfort them. “The officers are out, and commanders serve as consultants and
Their professionalism, “Col. Shankar stressed the role that the other officers.
Very complex to imagine the situation where the injured officer in uniform walking to bereaved family’s House and tries to comfort and help. “It is important to understand that we arrive as strangers and represent the body under which mind their children. From child to family service
In the army, and returned. It back in the closet, “Lieutenant Colonel Shankar describes his fragile condition. From there begins the complex relationship, and indicates that Lieutenant Colonel Shankar, and trust.
In the early days are critical for generations. “We’re going in with widows 2000 and fireplaces
Bereaved are perennials that will not be lost. He accompanies you throughout the years and left burning. If we take away their positions, giving them the tools to confront and embrace them — did a world. ”  The job is not always easy, because most small words can cause a burst of tears. “The loss is a wound that may not heal. It follows the families throughout life, affecting their decisions, “Col. Shankar marks.

Over a series of years, of the casualties with the bereaved families through visits and events such as the memorial ceremonies, seminars, retreats and conferences.
The cause of death, which changes from space to space, not for the victims ‘ treatment parameter. 
“From our perspective, space is space is space. Each side has fought loss at death like apparently expect someone to complete and internalize. As officers wounded – there is no difference and there must be a difference between falling, “says Lieutenant Colonel Shankar and clarifies that” the State of Israel has raised the child law and therefore irrelevant circumstances of death. We are a uniform annual charge of dilemmas. ” Regretfully Rabbi admits Lieutenant Colonel Shankar experience is,
And it can accommodate any event – whether death was operational, training and even shooting accident report. “Ultimately, after the family receives the materials
And the investigations – loss. We are where we are, all the steps along the way.  We don’t hide anything, family watch transparently and clearly shows that we are trying to learn the process. As a family know what happened, she will begin to deal with feelings of empowerment and to pick up the pieces “, says Lieutenant Colonel Shankar on the bits you might not be able to mend the world.

365 days a year of longing

Yom hazikaron and Israel IDF is just another day between 365 days of no son or daughter. “Most families say they don’t need the memory, is for citizens. It is intended that one day a year stop mayhem
And run, and the citizens think about the soldiers who died in order that the country will continue to kick and breathe, “Col. Shankar explains the significance of this day. She said the Memorial is located on a continuum of a process that starts from Passover through Holocaust remembrance day and Memorial Day.
Of independence. “Passover Eve that symbolizes liberty port Egypt laboratories until shredder and the Holocaust
On Memorial Day and independence day, the resurrection of the country – it is a sequence of intertwined these days, “explains Lieutenant Colonel Shankar.

The Department is preparing for memorial day. Two weeks before the holiday and an increased frequency of calls to the families. This trend continues intensively until
To a certain point after memorial day. “On Memorial day itself depart from the bonds and family divisions, injured and disabled. We’re trying to wrap
Each circle and place each representative Tomb on Memorial day itself, “noted Lieutenant Colonel Shankar processes that occur at this time of year. Although the desire exists to place at least one representative each, mainly in the reserve divisions. “Other important tasks, including State security, detract from our battle. We try in schools
Remote cemetery and have representatives who respect the fallen and remember those who are no longer with us, “Lieutenant Colonel Shankar on footwear is” to remember them all. “

Many people who shochlim their son or daughter and indicate that since have become others, whose lives have been changed. “Last year we brothers, changed lives and opened the creation as a way to cope with the loss. Some began to paint, sculpt and write. These activities have rehabilitative value, during which it is possible to unload the burden of manual labour or something visual, “Lieutenant Colonel Shankar for lessons that bereaved families to dedicate time to themselves. “Despite the deal, it is important to not forget the bereaved families.
Their pain. Burns where needed, not ignore them and say: ‘ we are here ‘, says Lieutenant Colonel Shankar about life in the shade with an ongoing job loss of memory and commemoration.

“I won’t let myself fall apart.”

For 17 years the casualties, Lieutenant Colonel Shankar was Rebecca in the ranks, along with the mental fortitude that developed to deal with the complex and sensitive work.
During the work, never on Col. Shankar to dare say that find satisfaction too.
“You come to the fore, you give answers and solve problems. When I came to
Olga, there are many events to IDF initiated the bereaved families, it is a kind of second home for me, “she says and remember the early days when in the same mashakit
The place.

The work of the officers cannot be filled without the process of construction. It may be taking away from the storm of emotions that bshchol if professionalism was disables their ability to serve the rock steady across the Bay. “You move from job to job, know what is expected and what you expect of yourself, what the system expects and what commanders expect.
On the other hand, we know that fall and we are. When the introduction, it protects you and keeps you “, describes Lieutenant Colonel Shankar on the nature of the relationship with the black demon called grief.

The most difficult work of Lt.-Col. Shankar weren’t funerals, but the funerals on the anniversary of the fall of the spaces. “The funeral knew exactly what to do and what is expected
From me. The part where I always was also the year snapped. Borrowing a family matter, and becomes familiar with the soldier in pictures – from the day of his birth until the parties and graduation film and his experiences. Sometimes I find myself gagging, “Col. Shankar on a
Personal challenges I faced.

The role that vacuum you mental powers, it is only natural that even members of the victims will need to support. “We have support groups throughout the service and the role of women. We accompany and are treated by various factors, “Col. Shankar reveals for the first time.
The expanding circle of support into the array itself. In addition, the process of formation.
Academic studies, Center for trauma curriculum on the basis of nationality.
“It gives us the tools and know-how, and ultimately we need to remind ourselves that the main difficulty is with the family. By studying we get professional anchor theory all existing information, and put it into templates. So we can draw from the drawers suitable tools to treatment “, says Lieutenant Colonel Shankar about this critical tool box.

In addition, Lt. Col. Shankar added that the emotional resilience must be kept. “I can’t afford to fall apart and have no powers. I’m allowed to express feelings, but should also be on line or a friend for your family. We are going with our families one step at a time,
Sometimes they are directive and sometimes we dance, in which every time someone else is leading. ” She thus broad fabric of human relationships, of the victims ‘ reintegration in accordance with the pace and the family’s conduct.
A personal perspective, Lt.-Col. Rebecca Schenker not embarrassed to say that fills it. “This type of Kadim even when talking about death and loss. Contact
And direct contact with the families. I’m thankful I opened my closed hearts and homes, “she says. As Col. Shankar officer casualties came to most painful,
Sensitive personal information in so many families, who agreed to reveal the most intimate details. “I think that I have to deal with such a sensitive area, which is not clear and obvious.
This type of gift, if you can call it that, “says Lieutenant Colonel Shankar.

Although, love is also a victims ‘ personal big prices
Lieutenant Colonel Shankar herself is a mother of seven children, and she believes that there is a connection between the role to her personal life. My purpose in bringing life into the world is necessarily connected to the loss “, Lieutenant Colonel Shankar. Personal contact made with the families so long sometimes develop long-range connections. “There are some families that are a part of me and forever will be, of all the roles I did request array. These are people who entered deep within, no matter what the circumstances of their fall. Develop relations companies that extend far beyond the loss of role, “says Lieutenant Colonel Shankar.

On Yom hazikaron Israel, IDF and the State of Israel to remember civil freedom and independence given to them. Remember the fallen and their families and spiritual sword
Following on one little knock at the door. At the same time, and in every other day, will the casualties of the IDF to act effectively and sensitively. The officers are there to comfort the families, to touch the most thin capillaries of the pain and to commemorate the fallen.

Translated from Hebrew